Dr. Gladys McGarey, 85, was the subject of a study that revealed the No. One thing that makes life more happiness and helps you “live longer.”
Dr. Gladys McGarey is the author of “The Well-Lived Life: A 102-Year-Old Doctor’s 6 Secrets to Health and Happiness at Every Age.”Dr. Gladys McGarey.
This year, Dr. McGarey turned 102 years old. She has learned a lot about how to live a long, happy, and purposeful life through her decades of experience in holistic medicine.
“Too many people feed into unnecessary stress. But the happiest and healthiest people I know are able to let go of things or experiences that no longer serve them. Life is too short to ruminate and consider same thought over and over again. By doing so, you’re essentially torturing yourself”, she said.
“So, the habit that has brought me health and happiness throughout my years is the ability to build things anew, whether it’s a relationship, career path or project”.
As per Dr. McGarey, it’s always good to let go of things that drain your energy. She claimed that her mother taught her a simple method for letting go of irrelevant things. She would gently raise her palm-up hand in front of them with her fingers held loosely. Then, at that point, dive it down and back and say, “It doesn’t matter.”
She was able to endure enormous obstacles without allowing them to consume her too deeply, she just released what wasn’t working, refocused on what was important to her, and moved on.
Dr. McGarey proceeded with that she has taken on this training for quite a long time. She would drop her hand when she saw something that didn’t work for her, she would just open her fingers in a fluid motion to let go of it. That’s it!
“Now that the gesture has become conscious, I realize that there’s great empowerment in knowing that whenever I notice something coming toward me, I can choose whether to take it in. And if it’s something I don’t want, I consciously give the energy back to wherever it came from”.
How Would You Work on Letting Go:
If you get up and move, this exercise will work best for you. Start walking around your house or neighborhood with upbeat music on. As you walk, let your body move freely and loosely. You might even allow yourself to dance briefly.
- Identify something that feels stuck in your life. It could be a friendship, a professional endeavor, a way of thinking, a resentment, and so on. Feel the sense of “stuckness” in your whole body.
- Imagine that you could hold this stuck thing in your hand. You may even feel one fist become tight. Hold this tightness. Squeeze your hand.
- Really let it go.
While still moving, hold your hand out in front of you, palm up, with the fingers together. Then drop it down and back, opening your fingers slightly. As you do so, release the stuckness.
You can think or say words that are meaningful to you: “It doesn’t matter,” or any similar phrase that works for you.
Once you’ve let it go, take a moment to appreciate the flow of life moving through you.
In fact, the happiest people know when it’s time to move on. Everyone faces regret. The question is: How long should we hold on to it?
“I don’t know what mistakes you’ve made in the past, but I’d like to suggest that you, too, mostly did the best you could with what you had at the time. If you find yourself living with regret, try to catch it and see what’s moving”.
Did things mostly turn out all right? If so, be grateful! Is there anything funny about it? If so, laugh! Have you learned anything new since then? If so, enjoy what you now know and express it however you can!
Do whatever you can do to let your regret go by forgiving yourself and, if necessary, ask for forgiveness from others — so you can move on with your life.
About Dr. McGarey:
Dr. Gladys Taylor McGarey, MD, is internationally recognized as the “Mother of Holistic Medicine.”
She is the co-founder of the American Holistic Medical Association, co-founder of the Academy of Parapsychology and Medicine, and author of “The Well-Lived Life: A 102-Year-Old Doctor’s 6 Secrets to Health and Happiness at Every Age.”
She was the first to utilize acupuncture in the U.S. and trained other physicians how to use it. At 100 years old, Dr. McGarey was the ‘world’s oldest practicing doctor’